Understanding the Emotional Impact of Hijab

This isn't me. The first time you wore the niqab, you may have told yourself that.

But no,

don't be afraid. This feeling has an explanation and a solution. Your mind has memorized your face for years

by heart, so when your appearance changes, your mind starts searching for

the old image. What did it say? This isn't you. But what changed was the image,

not you personally. The niqab is unlike any other change in your life

because it covers the thing you know most about yourself and that people know you by,

your face. So it's natural to reject it at first.

But you know, that's exactly what covering means.

Your face is now yours, and not just any passerby can see your face.

And your smile, worth a thousand smiles, hasn't disappeared. Even your identity hasn't

been erased, it has just become more precious, for those who deserve it.

Perhaps the question that hurts you most is, "I'm upset about this matter.

Does that mean I don't love God's command?" No. The Almighty said of the Companions,

"Fighting has been prescribed for you," what? "Though you dislike it."

Something may weigh heavily on the soul, but you are content with God's command.

And the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, "Paradise is surrounded by" what? Paradise.

“Paradise is surrounded by hardships.” It means the burden you feel

and your holding on to this matter will be rewarded.

To make this unfamiliarity easier, let’s follow three steps that, God willing, will

benefit you. First, don’t look at yourself in the mirror too much.

One look is enough for the day.

Second, keep your appearance consistent these days, the same headscarf, the same abaya, the same niqab

so your eyes can get used to it. Third, remind yourself that this appearance is for God,

Glorified and Exalted be He. Always pray, “O Turner of hearts, keep our hearts steadfast upon

Your religion.” After just a few weeks, you’ll look at yourself and say,

“This is me.”