Arabic → English transcript

What is the wisest saying or advice you’ve heard

in gatherings or elsewhere that really made a difference for you?

Honestly, there is one.

It was a course we took,

and it kind of felt like a gathering.

And this course was called“ The Art of Anger Management,”

and the trainer gave us a tip that truly affected my life.

And I pass it on to everyone I know. He told us,“ For any person,

I’ll give you a rule, and if you follow it,

God willing, you will avoid 90% of the causes of anger,

because nowadays people suffer from emotional outbursts and so on,

and even these outbursts cause many illnesses like

high blood pressure and diabetes,

and colon problems, headaches, nausea,

and even weak immunity in the body,

and cancer diseases, all caused by anger.”

He said,“ Anyone who gets angry must have a reason,

and the reason might be trivial or it might be something big.

So he said,“ I’ll tell you a rule: if you follow it, God willing, you will avoid

90% of the causes of anger.”

We said,“ What is this rule?”

And he said,“ A principle called the Principle of Overlooking.”

As if you did not see, as if you did not notice, as if you did not hear,

as if you did not smell, as if you did not understand.

So if you apply this— overlooking— then that is it, you avoid it.

Ninety percent of the causes of anger…

they even asked Imam Ahl al- Sunnah Ahmad ibn Hanbal, may Allah have mercy on him,

they said,“ O Imam,

we heard that nine tenths of well- being is in overlooking things.”

He said,“ No, no. They think he is saying eighty percent or something like that.”

He said,“ No, no. All well- being is in overlooking things.

So the one who overlooks always avoids many of these things and finds peace.

So this is really true,

because in society you may face the fool, the madman, the vulgar person,

and you may face someone who

that day, for example, wronged you. If you overlook it, you will not regret it,

you will never regret it.”