Choosing a Partner with Values

When you choose, man, don't choose the woman whose looks please you.

Her looks.

And she has no modesty.

Choose the woman who is modest.

The one who is modest around men because she is modest before God.

A woman who is modest before God, you can turn your back on her and feel at ease.

You can leave your home feeling reassured and safe.

A man seeks stability and security.

Will security and stability come from her beauty?

Her job? Material things alone? No, security and stability come from

trust. Where will trust come from? You are the one who will create it.

Some men say, "If she loved me, she'd trust me. If

she loved me—excuse me—she wouldn't just trust me, she'd even live for me.

She'd be mine." No.

Whoever does not fear God will not fear anyone.

Exactly, that's right.

So choose a woman of faith.

Faith, modesty,

and awareness mean choosing a woman who fears God.

And a woman who is aware and educated, as my brother Nawaf said.

Educated.

She should be educated and cultured. Education is not only about degrees.

Knowledge

is in life,

in the life we do not see on social media.

She should be deeper than just following social media.

She shouldn't watch Turkish series or foreign series, or— or— Snap

chat, or— or— social media platforms that spread, that spread lies.

Lies.

They create a distorted image of the relationship between husband and wife.

So she ends up with high expectations. Men too, you know, men

are influenced by social media to the point that when they get married, they think

they'll live the same lifestyle that's on social media,

in terms of attention, pampering, femininity, as if

life has no responsibilities or problems.

A woman may go through mental or hormonal problems and so on, so he must have

awareness.

awareness.

So choose the woman

who fears her Lord

and has modesty.

She shouldn't be bold. Beware of a bold woman.

Believe me, beware of her.

And one who can handle responsibility.

Everything will come afterward.

Everything will come afterward: stability, security, and comfort.

And God willing, by God's permission, even if problems arise, they will pass, God willing.