turkish → English transcript

The primary factor that sets the heart in motion and develops it is the conjugal relationship.

However, in the conjugal relationship, because lust predominates, the heart’s share is small.

This issue is greater during the engagement period, and after marriage it recedes under the dominance of the lower self.

With respect to the heart gaining aptitude for knowledge of God and love of Allah, the real training is done with the child.

The child is one of two beings on earth toward whom the heart naturally inclines.

Allah Almighty says, “Indeed, your children and your wealth are a trial.”

He mentions only wealth and children as a trial.

For human beings, the chance of lodging in the heart through excessive love and becoming an idol is greatest in the child and in wealth.

This is the danger the noble verse points to.

This is the danger expressed by the word fitna.

In the heart, love for one's child and love of wealth take hold, prevailing over other loves.

Yet, provided they are not idolized, regarding both one's child and one's wealth as a blessing attained by God's decree, a divine bestowal,

a person who keeps that within its proper bounds, through love for their child, ensures that their heart develops, in terms of sensibility, in the way required of a believer.