Understanding Love and Attachment

You ask, Keshav, if there is no attachment, will love survive?

Do you think that holding someone tightly is love?

Do you think that the fear of losing them is the proof of love?

But the truth is, my friend, where there is attachment, love suffocates and dies.

And where there is true love, the darkness of attachment cannot survive.

Today, I will show you that fine line between love and attachment,

after understanding which, your relationships will never cause you pain.

First of all, understand what attachment actually is. Attachment means' mine'.

When you do not love a person,

but rather love the happiness you get from them, that is attachment.

Attachment says,' Act according to my wishes so that I get happiness.'

Do not change, do not go away, you are only mine.'

Attachment is a chain, my friend.

And remember, whether a chain is made of iron or gold, it only imprisons.

Then what is love?

Attachment demands,' I want happiness from you.'

Love gives," I am happy in your happiness."

Attachment is a beggar, who is always afraid of what will happen to me.

Love is a king, who says," Wherever you are, just keep blooming."

When you like a flower, you pluck it and put it in your pocket, and it dies.

But when you love a flower, you water it and let it stay on the plant.

Ask yourself, do you want to pluck it or let it bloom?

Now you have the same question in your mind," Keshav, this sounds good,

but is it possible?"

If my son, my wife, or my loved one goes away from me, won't I feel pain?

There will be pain, my friend,

there will be suffering at the physical level.

But being free from attachment does not mean being stone- hearted.

Being free from attachment means accepting the truth.

Accepting that this person is a gift in my life, not my property.

They are a traveler, and I am an inn.

We have met, but we do not own each other.

Understand this with an example.

Relationships are like sand.

If you squeeze your fist tight,

the sand will slip through your fingers and you will be left empty- handed.

But if you keep your palm open, the sand will stay there.

True love is an open palm.

You give the other person the freedom to fly.

And look at the wonder, because of that freedom, they return to you again and again.

You will ask,' How do I do this?

How do I let go of attachment?'

Play your role, but do not cling.

A nurse cares for a patient in a hospital, with complete affection and love.

But when the patient recovers and leaves, the nurse does not cry.

Why? Because she knows that her role is complete.

You too must have this attitude of service towards your family, not of ownership.

Give, make me your center.

When you seek happiness in a person, they will give you pain, because people change.

When you see me in a human, your love will become immortal.

Your biggest fear is of losing, isn't it? What if they leave?

My friend, what is yours can never leave.

And what is leaving was never yours to begin with.

Attachment entangles you in the past or the future.

Love teaches you to live in the present.

Not only is love possible without attachment, but pure love is only possible without

attachment.

Just like a lotus leaf stays in water, but water cannot make it wet, similarly,

you live in the world, stay in relationships, love deeply.

But do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket.

When you understand that we are all on the same journey,

then you will not cling to the other,

but hold their hand and walk along.

This was Radha's love, in which there was no demand, no bondage.

That is why that love is still alive today.

My friend, make your love so light that it's easy for others to fly with you,

not a burden.

Attachment makes you weak, love makes you fearless.

From today, not as a master, but as a gardener…