The Law of Assumption and Confidence in Conversations

When I first heard about the law of assumption, I thought it was so cringe, because this law says that when you go into a situation, assume that what you want to happen will happen.

And again, I'm not really into this woo-woo manifestation.

I don't believe that simply thinking something will happen will automatically make it happen. However, as an example, for many years, I went into conversations with women with a subconscious expectation and assumption that they wouldn't like me at the end of the conversation.

And what do you think happened as a result? These women thought I was weird.

Sometimes they thought I was creepy. Sometimes they thought I was just shy and not really that interesting to be around.

But when I started entering these conversations with the assumption that they would like me and think I was cool by the end of our interaction together, that started to happen.

I can't tell you the specifics as to why. I have no idea.

I'm still kind of trying to unpack that myself.

But maybe the simplest reason is this. When you go into an interaction thinking someone will like you, you tend to show up as your best self.

You say what you think. You make jokes that are actually funny, and that's the kind of thing that people want to be around.

So, next time you're in a situation where you're unsure you're going to get what you want from it, try practicing the law of assumption.