Dating Advice and Relationship Dynamics

So before we get in to story time or I should say lesson time

This is not all about me. This is not all about my previous relationship. This is a

compilation of stories that I have heard over the last like year and a half of

So many women going through very similar things and I will say

that given the line of work that I was in and like very similar lines a work like whether it's

Like actual modeling or camming or film or just OF or whatever it is

There's like there it or even some of them are just influencers like actually just regular influencers

it is like a certain type of man that tends to

initially be grat like gravitate towards a

Woman that has a lot of attention a lot of male attention a lot of sexual attention

Very beautiful making lots of money

online, right so whether it's explicit or not explicit it does it does kind of

Attract a certain demographic. So there I will say there's gonna be a sample bias here

however, these stories kind of run the gamut so like there's everything from like I said from a regular influencer all the way to like

Explicit content, right?

But these are many stories I'm gonna kind of like jumble them all up so it kind of keeps everyone's privacy

but again, this is just to like

showcase what to look out for so you don't fall into this trap and it's also

just like expose sneaky fuckers because again like these are not men and for

some reason everyone's like blaming feminism you at the end of the day are

responsible for your own behavior but you can't push that off onto culture or

other people or another sex that is nonsense especially if you're a man

because aren't you supposed to be the leader sure sounds like following if

your actions are based off of someone else's XYZ correct me if I'm wrong

we're gonna start at the beginning which is and I will actually say feminism does

play a role in this into brainwashing so many generations that women's sexual

behavior should be identical to males now there is a small percentage of women

where they do behave and it's authentic that they do behave and have desires

more similar to men but it's only about 5% for the other 95% is very much the

stereotypical advice that you have heard which is like they once they're intimate

with someone they do bond with that person they have expectations they're

less promiscuous they assign more meaning to sex emotionally than men it's

a bigger deal to women as a whole right

So, the narrative is, is that you can have all of this unattached sex, consequence-free,

don't be clingy, don't be needy, don't be such a girl.

So that left a lot of women wanting to be the cool girl, wanting to be accepted, wanting

to not rock the boat, not be a problem, which goes along with our agreeable nature.

So it's kind of like the perfect storm, essentially.

So you have these women that are agreeing to be in casual relationships, situationships,

to the point where you'll even have the guy admitting that he is with other women, physically.

And it goes against every fiber in her being, but she's like, okay, cool.

We can keep it casual.

You can be with as many people as you want.

I'm not really looking for anything serious, right?

Red flag number one, especially, especially if he's of a certain age.

So certain fuckery is expected in the early years, right, like 18, 19, maybe a little

bit through college.

But after that, after that, if a man is insisting on keeping things casual, that he can be seeing

multiple women at the same time, that he's not going to be ready for anything that you

deserve for years.

Run, you deserve better than that.

There are plenty of men, and men, men,

that are able to put their desires,

contain their desires, right?

It doesn't go away, of course.

They're not blind, they're living, they're breathing,

they see beautiful things.

That is very different than saying, I have to have that,

I have to have that, I have to have that.

Because it's so, it's like, think of,

it is so shallow and spread so wide,

instead of wanting to go deep with one person.

And a commonality with a lot of these women,

including myself, was love is abundant,

and I'm not possessive, and I'm not jealous,

I'm a cool girl, right?

Red flag number one, that is immature masculine,

that is, I need novelty, and nuance,

and lack of commitment.

So, if he is not willing to be monogamous,

relatively soon, relatively soon,

I would say by like, date five,

by five dates in, like real dates,

and you're going to Hobby Lobby, right?

You're going to the grocery store,

you're not just like, coming over late at night,

you're starting to get more intimate and vulnerable.

That's when you want to start having that talk and have the talk because if that scares him off good

You want to be filtering? So none of this like am I gonna scare him away? That's the whole point of dating

It's to be yourself. It's to say the crazy not crazy. We see I'm even doing it now

It's not crazy

Say the things that you want out of the future the whole point of dating is to find your person that you are going to

Spend your forever with so you want to be like, do you want kids? Do you want to get married?

Where do you see your living yourself living? What are your values? What are your principles? Like what?

Role do you play?

within your community and your friend circle like

all of these like really deep questions to find out is this person want to build a life with and if

If not, what's the point of dating right? You don't need to be wasting your time and your money and your energy on

Someone that's just gonna be fleeting right or transient

So lesson number one

Monogamy, it's not outdated

It's not boomer it we have been doing it for a very long time for a reason. It's not to say

immediately date one you need to be saying that he's unfollowing people and

Only with you that's a little bit much. That's a lot a bit much but it is to say you will know

When the time is right to have the conversation of expecting you to be the only one that he's with and for him to take it

Seriously and to be doing actions

that support that and it's certainly

certainly not a year in, not six months in. I would say like three months max.

Three months max. If he's still not monogamous after three months, you gotta

go girl. Even that's a long time, I think.