How Social Media and Dating Apps Affect Young People and Relationships

I'm 30 years old. Um, not one of my ch- my friends has children.

Zero. No one. No one's having kids. Do you know how hard you need to abuse a mammal to make them not have children? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Like, like, like for real. Like, let's, let's, let's step here back a moment, right?

Never thought of it that way. Yeah. Look, GDP goes up.

People have a lot of, have enough food, you know, and whatever.

No one's having kids. Yeah. And this is across the world.

This is across both the West, the East, you know, everywhere it's happening.

So there's a thing that happens, especially with younger gen, like even younger than me, like the kids who are like 18 today.

There's a huge problem where they don't dance.

No one dances. They go to clubs and they don't dance.

Why is this? Because you get recorded. Yeah. If you're an 18-year-old kid- There's exposure ... you go to a club, you get recorded.

If you approach a girl and you mess it up, you get recorded. Wow.

Everything is the panopticon now. So if you had to ask me why, my answer is technology.

My answer is social media. My answer is AI.

My answer is algorithms. Do you know what dating app algorithms do?

Do you know how they optimize? They don't optimize to you to meet your love of your life.

They optimize you to keep coming back to the app. Yeah, yeah.

And now there's a thing that basically we have sold out all of our dating norms, all of our, you know, interpersonal norms to tech companies without our consent to optimize their ad algorithm. Right.

I think there's a deep thing where we as a society have not dealt with the fact that we have to steward technology responsibly.

We have treated technology as a Wild West. Absolutely.

Just everyone can do whatever they want, you know.

Oh, just sell all of our younger generation's dating lives to corporations for profit.

There was... And who pays the cost for this?

Who has liability? So I think the real problem is, is that we are as a society, as a government, the generations that came before me and also my generation, I don't want to exclude myself from this, but also generations came before me,

just let technology rip. The promise was if you let technology rip- Right ... if you let internet rip, there will be democracy and freedom and happiness and economic growth.

And where, where is that? And I think my generation is noticing that broken promise.