Coping with Heartbreak and Grief

How do you get over a heartbreak?

How do you get over heartbreak?

Yeah.

I'm sorry for your trouble, sir.

Did you have your heart broken?

Yeah.

Yeah. Was it recent? When was it?

Four months.

Four months, okay. There's like, there's a mourning period to breaking up

with

someone because not only are you losing them, you're

losing the version of you that was with them.

We don't have an identity that's within our skin.

Our identity is dispersed. We're different with different people,

right?

We're different with our parents than we are with our friends than we are with our

partners, and I bet you really liked who you

were when you were with her,

and that's why it hurts so much, because you lost her and you lost

that little part

of yourself. You've gotta find that part of yourself again,

and you'll do that. It's a, it's, it's... You're not a noun, you're a verb.

You're a doing thing. You've gotta find someone else to love.

Go and love them.

You're all right, but I feel for you, man. It's good as well.

Like, if it didn't hurt, it wouldn't have been anything. It's a,

it's, it's grief.

Like, people don't really understand what grief

is. Grief is like...

The opposite of grief isn't happiness. The opposite of grief is forgetting.

You loved that woman, right? She's left you, right?

You're heartbroken, but you wouldn't wanna forget her.

That's a part of your life, and that was a good part of your life.

Celebrate the good parts, and then you've gotta move on.

You'll be all right, champ.

You'll be, you'll be fine.