Understanding Male Hormones and Relationships

Why does he want to bang you all the time?

This is understanding male hormones 101, okay?

Have you ever wondered why he literally wants to bang you all of the time?

No, it's not because he's a dog.

Maybe he is a little bit. No, it's not because he sees you like a

slice of meat. If you don't understand what you're

biologically dealing

with, with your man, you're gonna make your life

and your man's life

miserable forever. Men literally produce between 10 and

20 times more testosterone than women.

That is not a small gap, girl. That is an entirely different hormonal

reality. And here's what you women don't realize.

Testosterone doesn't just drive sex.

It drives his aggression, his ambition, his

competitiveness, and his literal need to pursue,

protect, and provide. Those are not separate

functions. They are one engine. So the same hormone that's fueling his

drive at work is the same hormone that makes him protective.

It's the same hormone that motivates him to build a future,

and it's the same

hormone fueling his desire for you.

Do you understand? You can't split them apart.

You can't separate them.

Men need to bang you to regulate themselves, okay?

So picture this. He had a brutal day.

He had to deal with a different situations at work, difficult

client, his boss was a jerk to him, or something he wanted just went

absolutely wrong. Then he comes home and reaches for you, and

the first thing you think is that he's doing it while

ignoring that you're tired or stressed or whatever.

No, girl. He's doing it because you are literally how he comes back

to himself, and you are denying him.

So understand that this is the opposite of what you think,

okay? That is not selfish behavior. It's not.

It's one of the most vulnerable things a man can actually do, and you're

turning it away. So if your reaction to that is,

"Ugh,"

or, "Ugh, not now.

Ugh, okay, fine. Make it quick." Just understand

that he just

doesn't move on from that at all. No.

You are inflicting a low blow to his ego and to

his nervous system, so he is now going to

retreat quietly and feeling completely defeated.

I need you ladies to really understand me for a second, okay?

Most of you women think about rejection the way we

experience it, right? We feel sad. We talk to somebody about it.

We cry. We process it, and we move through it.

But that's a very feminine response to pain. Men don't do that.

Absolutely not. For a man,

being turned down by his own woman

repeatedly, dismissively, or

both, it doesn't just hurt him in the moment.

Nope.

It hurts at the level of his masculine identity.

His sense of being wanted, his sense of being

enough, his sense of his masculinity takes a

pretty hard blow, okay? And he is never going to tell you that.

He will not come to you and say, "You know what?

When you pushed me away last night, I felt unwanted and really

hurt." No, he's not going to do that.

He's just going to get quiet. He will stop reaching out, and he will

be probably somewhere else emotionally far,

far away, and that is your fault. Here's a scenario, okay, I've seen

happen more times than I can count.

A couple has been together for a few years.

In the beginning, the intimacy was awesome.

It was consistent, but then life happens. Kids happen.

The career pressure goes up, and the stress skyrockets, okay?

And then the woman pulls back on initiating.

It's not because she is a downer. No, it might not be that,

but because emotionally, she is drained, okay?

And then he reaches for her at night, and she says no.

Even worse, she doesn't say anything. She just rolls over.

And then this happens a few times, more and more,

and then a few times more, and guess what happens?

He simply stops reaching out, stops initiating altogether,

and just checks

out. Then she notices that he seems distant, but assumes

that he's just stressed or tired, so she pulls back even more.

And now they're barely talking about it, barely touching, and

barely connecting with each other.

Then she starts wondering why he doesn't pursue her anymore.

I mean, do you see how stupid this is? Of course he stops pursuing.

He got tired of being rejected all the damn time, but she

thinks the problem is communication.

No, the actual problem is, and

happened, and probably started months ago.

It's a series of small moments that she didn't realize were piling

up and chipping away at his confidence and masculinity.