Discussion on Trauma and Feminism

Where after a few years of the Me Too movement, people have said things like,

"Believe all women." Um, which is, in theory,

not a bad idea. Um, believe people who are victims of oppression

and, like, rape and sexual abuse. But that's led us to a

particular situation where a lot of TERFs, a lot of

trans-phobic feminists in Germany say, "I'm a victim of sexual assault,

therefore I can't be in a fitness studio or a

sauna with a trans woman who has a penis.

Because a man raped me, this trans woman is somehow

triggering to me." And the fact that we view that as

a rational political position and not a disturbing trauma

response from someone who need, desperately needs therapy for sexual

assault,

is something that I think is honestly a failure of these sorts of

liberal politics

where it's like, um,

I am their, I am this, therefore you must do this, um,

has led to this

particular situation. I can understand why someone might be

afraid,

but I try to not make my trauma other people's problem.

Mm.

Um, I don't think if a woman was raped by a lesbian

that gives her the right to

say, "I don't want lesbians in my space."

Mm.

It would be like, shut up. Like, why do you think

that you experiencing something

means that you get to discriminate?

And I think when we allow those narratives to

take hold, then they sort of embolden stereotypes.

Like, I know with, um, the trans woman and the penis thing,

there's this idea that,

like, trans women have, like, hairy fucking huge horse cocks

and stuff that are swords that they're using to kill people.

The feminine penis is much different than the masculine

penis.

When we allow trauma to take hold of a conversation, it distorts it,

because that's

what pr- trauma does.

Mm.

It's very disturbing and-

It's irrational, right?

It's irrational, and, and, and somehow that's been allowed in Germany

to be

normalized, and I think that's, um, maybe that's a good note to end on.

It's, it's, I think that's, um,

a very bad impulse to just accept

unquestionably. And I say that with an immense amount of empathy for

anyone who's

also been through the horror of sexual abuse.

Um, but

that-

I wanted to end-

... doesn't have to be my problem.

I wanted to end on the-

Sorry

... end on a lighter note.