Discussion on Dating Expectations and Costs

Saw a guy in here talking about the fact that he was supposed to be taking this

woman on a date, and essentially she reaches out to him

and she's like, "Hey, I

gotta get my nails and my hair done for the date.

Um, so basically, if you could send the money for that."

And he

was like, "Mm, respectfully, I am not that person.

Like, I'm not about to pay for your maintenance,

your,

like...

What you... I'm not about to pay for that, for you to go on a date with me, and

then pay for you to be on a date. Like, this is a first date.

Are we serious?" And he was thrown.

And here's the thing, I'm thrown too.

I'm, I'm wondering where women are finding all this audacity.

Um,

I'm also wondering why your regular maintenance that women are

vocal about not wanting to pay $150 for

their nails because it's absurd, and these nail techs

are just crazy to be charging

these prices, and why is my hair costing $700?

Y'all come out here and you complain about the prices

when it...

you're supposed to be paying it, and then you go on dates with men where

you

know they're gonna be paying all this money for you to go on dates because

you've

set the standard to say, "I'm not going on a coffee date.

I'm not going to walk around at a park.

I'm not doing any of that." So now the expectation is they have to come

out $100, $200 at least, to feed you,

and you may not even be coming back for a second date.

They may get there and realize they don't actually like you.

Um, but now you also want them to come out of

pocket

$150 for nails, and hundreds of dollars to get

your hair done for one evening and a few hours to spend some time

with you, and maybe never see you again.

But now you got your stuff set for the next date?

For the next three weeks? For the next month with your

hair? Like, what... How do these things even make sense?

Now, I wanna ask you this question.

If the shoe was on the other foot,

do you think that you would be willing to pay for someone to

go on a date with you? And I ask this question because I don't

think some of

y'all actually... Like, maybe it makes sense

when you're saying it in your head or

when you're watching other women tell you that that's a

thing. But it can't really feel good to be

asking men for money in order to pay for your

regular maintenance. Like, it can't feel good