Divorce and Rebound Relationships

Okay, so right after I got divorced, I got into a situation with somebody

I knew from work.

And... How quickly after the divorce? Well, like immediately.

It was like a rebound, right? I guess is what they would call it.

Okay. And we worked together. Like the day after?

Maybe, maybe.

Sort of, yes. Okay.

So I knew him, right? We worked together. That's how we met.

Wait, how long were you married?

Almost five years. Did you guys ever have any kids?

Yes. And you got with this person a day after?

Yes, but see what, I thought he was like the love of my life.

A day after a divorce, okay. Yes. Sure.

And you thought he'd be living with you?

Yes. Like I thought we were going to be together, we were going to be in love.

But then that wasn't the case because he was married.

Oh. Which I know it sounds terrible, right?

That sounds terrible. But I thought he was just like the love of my life.

And we met under these unusual circumstances, which technically like I was married

too, right? Like so... Wait a...

Okay, no, sorry. Go on, go on. I'm processing.

The time I moved out of my house to the time my divorce was

finalized was probably like six months, maybe a little longer.

So like technically I was married. What?

This, this, this, the...

So like the day after you were like, hey, I'm divorcing you. Is that how that went?

My ex husband? Yeah.

Well, we had like a conversation. And we

were like, okay, so it's ending in a divorce. We understand. Then the next day you

were with that dude?

Well, I'm not, no, not exactly. But very soon after, yes. But he was married?

So I was under the impression that he was the same kind of married that

I was, which like... The same kind? What kind of married is that? Which is like...

That's insane. No, hear me out.

So like... I... Okay. No, I'm hearing you out. It just doesn't really vibe with

my personal morals on that, but...

Right, no, no, no. Go for it. So like legally... You say

your thing. We're trying to get context for how

you ended up here. So go ahead, go ahead. Legally married, right? Oh yeah.

Like was not

divorced yet, but we were not living together. Yeah, but you also met up with

the dude the day after and he was married as well. Not the day after, that makes...

Within a couple of weeks, right?

So anyways, he had me under the

impression that they were getting divorced,

but they owned a home together. They owned vehicles together.

So it was like a longer process, right? But yeah, you guys had a kid.

Yeah, but we didn't have any like finances together. So it wasn't hard. Okay.

So he was like, I'm leaving.

Like they're not together no more, right?

They're just in this process of getting divorced. That was my understanding.

Turned out that wasn't the case at all.

And I found that out several months later. Why are you guys together?

Me and the guy? Sorry, I know this isn't like straight finances right here.

We're trying to give context to the finances, but I do

have to be a little honest that I am quite interested in this. That's fine.

So I will give it at least a couple more minutes.

We were together maybe six months. You and the married guy? Yeah, married.

Banging it up. Banging it up.

You were... Well, yeah, of course. And he was married.

Yes. That's homewrecker behavior. Technically, that is true. Yeah.

It's embarrassing. Yeah. But they're still together. Wait a minute,

and you signed a lease expecting him to live with you?

Yeah, they're still together. Does she know?

Oh, yeah.

Are they open? No.

Future wife, please don't cheat on me.

I would be at, okay.

Yeah, so she found out about me,

and I was kind of like... Oh, she found out, okay. Yes, it was a whole thing.