Understanding Responsibility and Victimhood

be under the impression that they're hurt, they're sad, they're frustrated, they're

angry because of a circumstance, a person, a

situation. That's blame and judgment, which I totally get.

I have compassion for. I've been there plenty of times myself,

but I know it's

learning to be fully responsible.

You're either a victim or 100% responsible for your life.

It's an on/off switch.

What about someone listening who's like, "But I lost my job and it was totally out

of my control. I showed up, I did everything in my criteria,

and they fired me."

So this is why it gets so deep. I'm talking about the responsibility of

the soul.

I'm speaking from the level of your essence, not your human experience.

In the world of cause and effect, if for some reason, God forbid,

not to wish it

upon us, like, a meteor hit this building, are we at the effect of and are we

victims of that? Yes, you could say that.

Yes.

So I understand. And the nature of the unfolding of life,

everything's

interconnected, and for whatever reasons, at this moment, life could not be

different, because it isn't. And so I'm not gonna fight life,

because that would

mean that I think I know how things should be.

So the responsibility part is at the deepest essence of who we are.

So I get hit by a car. In the manifest world of the human

three-dimensional experience, he, in legal terms, is at

fault. That's where humans get caught up in their

good, bad, right, wrong,

fault conversation.

Mm-hmm.

What I'm speaking from is by virtue of anything happening, I

must be responsible, because this is what my soul signed up for.

Yeah.

It's a deep, profound accountability, ownership

responsibility. The, the person who lost their job,

first of all, didn't lose their

job, 'cause even the word lost creates

victimhood.

Mm-hmm.

No. What if I told you that in six weeks you get hired for a job

that pays you

twice as much in an area of town that you love, that six months after

that you

fall in love with a person who works in that building?

Mm-hmm.

That's your future. They'd be like, "I'm so glad I got laid off."

Right.

Do you see? Same event, different story because of how it's

perceived.

Right.

So it's about the way that people don't accept the unfolding

of life, and so they're in constant resistance,

which itself is part of the

suffering.

Yeah.

I know it can seem a little overwhelming, but it mitigates any kind of feeling

of victimhood or even control, and it really allows us to sort

of acquiesce and lean more into surrender.

We're both willing participants in the unfolding of life, but co-creators in

it. But also, at one level, there's no such thing as

legitimate choice, 'cause choices are all being made on conditioning.

And that's why this game is so seductive.

Because really, we're generating our own experience,

albeit unconsciously,

because of the way we're programmed, which is a by-product of the history we've

had, which is typically littered with traumas

that we still haven't reconciled.

Mm-hmm.

It takes an inordinate amount of wisdom, experience, maturity

to not be at the effect of life. Most people, until they get beyond their

constraints, are always gonna be in victim mode.

It's always because of something else.

As the young ones say, you're cooking right now, Peter.

You're cooking.