Allyship, White Savior Complex and Centering Marginalized Voices

Hey colonizer

What's not okay is to project your anger onto people who want to be

allies.

Then don't be an ally. Girl, your attitude is the definition of a white

savior

complex. If your allyship is so dependent on the fact that he

and his people

do not hurt your feelings, your commitment to his movement

is not that strong to

begin with. Listen, here's the thing about being an ally.

The number-one job you have as one is to defer to people with marginalized

identities that you want to be an ally to.

How his movement makes you feel does not matter.

He doesn't have space for that. He doesn't have to make space for that.

His page is not a negotiation table where you can come in and demand what's gonna

work for you, expecting that he's gonna engage in some sort of

conversation about

how you two can meet in the middle. No, the only term of negotiation that is

acceptable in his own movement is that you meet him and his

people where they are. They provide a direction, and if

that makes you feel

uncomfortable, that discomfort is yours and yours only to deal with.

That's a radical concept of de-centering yourself.

He does not need your help that you will generously provide

if he caters to you.