Real Relationships vs. Social Media: Making Room for Human Flaws

I think some people aren't looking for a human being

anymore in relationship. They're looking for somebody who

behaves in a way that Instagram says a healthy partner

should behave.

Let me ask you something. Does your idea of a healthy relationship

include your partner having a bad day?

What about having a bad week? What if they lose something, a

job or a c- a close family member? What if they get

overwhelmed? What if they get insecure?

What if it hits them so hard they're not

communicating perfectly anymore? They're not as affectionate.

They're not initiating sex. They're not checking every one of our

boxes, right? Do you have room in your

definition of a healthy relationship for that?

Because that's part of what social media leaves out.

We learn in relationships through snapshots, right? Know your worth.

Never settle. If they wanted to, they would.

Don't accept the bare minimum. We hear all this unrealistic stuff,

and sometimes it's great advice. But listen, real

relationships with a human happen across seasons,

and the person who's normally pouring into you might eventually

need you to carry them for a while. The emotionally available person

may become emotionally exhausted.

The secure person may need reassurance.

The great communicator might occasionally say some dumb shit,

because you're not dating a relationship theory, you're dating a

human being. And I wonder if some people aren't struggling to

find love, they're struggling to make room for the

amount of

humanity that love actually requires.

Maybe you're struggling to fit your Disney version of

love into the actual

parameters of a real life relationship with a human being who has

ups and downs. I'm not telling you to settle.

I'm asking you, are you actually looking for a human

being?