Understanding Compatibility in Relationships

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Going off of compatibility just by itself can be a

trap because first off, you can be compatible with a demon.

Like devils know what you like too.

The type of women that you like, you want her to have more curves in a

highway.

The type of man that you like, you want him tall with broad shoulders

and a beard.

The enemy could send you pain gift wrapped as your

preference. So that's just the first thing about how

compatibility can be a trap.

The second thing is compatibility is season-based.

It is possible for you to be compatible with the season of their

struggle, but not the season of their success.

I want somebody who's going to be there for me if I hit rock bottom.

Well, what if they can only handle your rock

bottom, but they can't handle your

upward season? So now the question becomes, are we really

compatible or do we just share similar dysfunction?

We're both broken in the same area.

We're both wounded over the same things.

We have the same feelings over the same wounds.

So we end up sharing hearts. But what happens if one of you

heals and the other one doesn't?

Because just because you heal doesn't mean that they're going to heal.

And just because you heal doesn't mean that you can make them heal.

What happens if one of you heal? You will remove what y'all had in

common. And I want us to be so whole and so secure

that when we heal, we don't end up feeling guilty because

they're

crawling, but we now have wings. It's not just about

compatibility. It's about suitability.

Does this individual suit my assignment well?

Do they compliment what it is that God has me doing in earth

while I'm here in time? When a man or a woman has found that,

that's a blessing. Because when God gives a blessing,

you're not going to have

to exchange your mental health as payment to keep it.

So maybe you're so exhausted because you're breastfeeding

toxicity in order to maintain an image of being

happy over the very thing that you told everybody was a

blessing.