Life Lessons to Reduce Stress

I'm going to save you years of unnecessary stress.

These things I will say to you now will save you years of unnecessary stress, so

it's better you listen than scroll.

You do not know me and I do not know you.

Whatever I'm going to be saying to you is out of experience.

You see, most of the things that we still suffer from

are what we could have

learned from other people's story, but we choose to act blind to

it and allow it happen to us, and we are still suffering the regret to this

day.

It's better you listen to me, my brother.

I'm going to say three things and get the fuck out of here.

I don't wanna waste your time, so let's get on to it.

These three things pull us backward more than we can ever imagine.

And you need to listen to number three.

It's the most important, so be patient.

Number one, people pleasing. The truth that we are so scared to tell

ourselves is that if we die today, every

single person that depends on us will survive some way, some

how. They don't need you.

They don't need you to survive. You

are the one who sweat your ass out. You are the one who try to put yourself in

the

line. You're the one who kill yourself for every

single person.

You're the one who is doing too much.

Stop pleasing people. Why are we so scared to tell ourselves

the truth? What is it we fear?

People will survive

with or without you. People will make it

out with or without you. People will find a way out with

or without you. People will move on with or

without you. Do what you can, not what

you must.

If it's for yourself,

that is, that is a different case. Not for people.

For people, you do what you can. You don't do what you must.

Stop giving credit to things that disturb your peace and stress you

out.

They are not worth it.

So little bro, people pleasing will break you,

and people pleasing will

definitely kill you. You are the prize. Save yourself.

Take care of yourself. Number two, validation.

This is one thing that will not just hold you back,

but kill you

if you allow it to.

It will slowly kill you. I still question myself, "What is it that

we need from what people have to say?"

But I do not blame us at all because we've buried our self-confidence

in how the world sees us. We've buried our self-belief in h-how

people see us and what they think of us.

We've buried our confidence in approval, in praises,

in applauds, in cheerings. We think how far we can go

depends on what people say and what they think of us.

But you are wrong. How far you can go depends on what you

think of

yourself, idiot. When someone curses you, at the end of

the day, the curse does not come.

It's when you accept it.

You see that point of your life where everything starts to go wrong and you are

accepting it to yourself and saying, "Oh, my life is destroying. What's going on?

Why are things falling apart?"

That is when the devil comes in to make it actually fall apart.

Ninety percent of the things that we worry about in our head,

at the end of the day, they end up not happening.

We suffer more in our imagination than in reality.

Wake up

and stop

seeking for approval. You don't need it.

How far you will go and where you will be tomorrow depends on

what you do today.

Not in people's praises, not in approvals, not in

validation.

If their cheering and praises

build your confidence and keep you going, imagine what their

silence would do to you.

It would be your death.

Hey,

congratulations, my brother.

See how you're developing. You stayed till number three.

Now, listen to me closely.

This is one of the things that we suffer from every single day,

but we just

don't notice it. We pay

less attention to it because we feel it's normal.

I mean, who doesn't enjoy comfort?

On number three, we have procrastination.

You're wondering why I mentioned this one, right?

My bro,

let me take you deep into the meaning of procrastination.

Procrastination is the wife of comfort.

It kills you.

It shrinks your dreams and eats up your

dreams,

and it blinds you from seeing them.

It blinds you from even seeing any reason to pursue your dreams or even put

in effort or even put in work.

It tells you you need peace. Stay in your comfort zone.

You need to relax.

You still have time. It, it blinds you from seeing the truth.

Procrastination make you live more in your imagination than in reality.

You make things happen in your mind, but you don't bring them to reality

and put

them to work. You don't put them to practice.

Every single time, you tell yourself, "I'm going to do it." And when it's

time to do it, you say, "Oh, no, I don't feel like it yet.

I need to do it later.

I need to think more." You don't need to think more.

The point where you feel like it's scary to jump, that is when you jump, my

brother. That is exactly when you jump.

Procrastination will make you not see your full potentials.

It will shrink your dreams until they are small enough for your eyes to

even see.

It will make you not see what you need to do.

Go do what you need to do. I keep saying

this. One year from now, you will look back to the previous three

hundred and

sixty-five days of your life and you will say,

"Thank God I spent my time

doing this." Or you would say, "I wish I spent my time doing this."

Do not live a life of regret.

Go get it done. Go get it done. Now that you know these

things, how are you helping yourself?

What are you doing to help yourself?

Make a difference. Make a difference.

Where you will be tomorrow depends on what you do today.

Make a difference, my brother.

I am not perfect.

I just came to give a message. And thank you for listening to me.

My name is Valentine Obasuyi,

but that doesn't matter. Go get your life fixed.