Discussion on Relationships and Trust

You and your wife, Clip. I love watching him and his wife.

I always learn something. His wife is walking all over him- ...

in that fucking house.

That nigga can't go down the- Which one you say?

That nigga can't go down the street.

No, I watched the clip where it said, and then it cut.

I'm, I almost subscribed, but the clip was like-

... uh, I guess one of her exes invited her to,

like, a

dinner at one of these conferences.

Oh, that was last year. Okay. Hmm.

Yeah, but it just popped up in my algorithm.

That's it. Hmm.

And she was like, "Yeah, we should probably talk, have, have

that talk and

gain understanding of what that looks like or what that is like."

And then the clip

cut to something else.

That's how you... Normally, that makes people subscribe, but-

Didn't work on you

... you're, you're a tough one.

But, um, no, she, she went to sh- a conference.

Mm-hmm. And homeboy go- is in the same con-

they go to the same conference. Mm-hmm.

Okay.

And they caught up and m-met up for dinner to catch up. I,

I know.

I met him before. Wait, what? Huh? Yeah, now I'ma talk, nigga. What?

Good morning, Flip. Come on, man. Nah, what, what... You said that she met him...

Did she check in with you before she met up with him?

Yeah, she asked if I was okay with it. And you was? Yeah.

And she asked if I said- Niggas like you be lying.

You, you pulled up on the low and hiding. I know that trick.

It was, it was- I did that shit before. Yeah.

"Oh, yeah, I'm good."

"Nigga, I'm in Queens. Quick. On my aunties."

"I happen to be in the area." That nigga got the good binoculars.

Wait, you said you was good with it?

Yeah. She, she checked. She said, "Are you sh..." She actually called back

to say,

"Are you sure you're good with it?" What choice do you have?

No, I'm, I'm- The truth.

Really?

No, no, no. That's the question? There, there are situations where I say no.

Oh, shit. Now this is getting way better than I even

imagined.

Yo, listen to this. Nigga, what choice, nigga? If your, if your...

What you gonna tell your wife, "Nah"? I'll take the keys, boy.

What you gonna tell your wife not to go to the conference?

No, she at the conference already. Um. If she asked her about the dinner.

Okay. No, I would not tell her not to go to the

conference.

But I would tell her no... If, if I'm not comfortable with it,

I'll tell her no.

To that, to that, you say what? 'Cause I'm confused by your take.

I, I, I would let her go to the dinner.

A private dinner with her ex? A private dinner.

You added "private".

You at a restaurant.

It's a regular dinner, so-

You at a restaurant. With, with who?

And he's- Is it a group dinner, or it's two people?

Is it a group of them, or it's two?

I'm gonna need some immature freeze.

Freeze. We don't play that freeze.

No, we don't.

Y'all niggas playing that. What in y'all world is gonna happen?

Y'all too confident in y'all selves. Well, okay, we get that you're handsome.

You been getting money for a long time. You on TV. You got green eyes. We get it.

I'm not playing that, nigga. Link, you wanna do what, nigga?

You wanna have legs?

Nigga, I'm not playing that. What dinner, nigga? Don't say that shit, dog.

They gonna- I'll be the waiter, the waiter. Let me ask you a question.

No, look, let me ask you a question.

Do you think y'all are the anomalies in that?

No. No, I think-

Or you think-

I think it's, I think it's- No, probably 50/50 ... 70. It's not.

No, no, I think it's-

Oh, you niggas on crack

... I think it's 70/30. I think it's 70/30.

Y'all on drugs.

No, but hold up. I didn't say 50/50. I kinda think it's 50/50.

I think, I think a good percentage of that 70-

Mark is on drugs

... is lying. I think it's 70/30. No, but what if we met-

Huh?

What if... I agree. What if we met the guy? What if this,

we met the guy?

Yeah, see. Because some people... Wait, hold on. Some people allow they- What?

Some people allow their ex to come to their house and sleep over

while they're in a relationship. Right.

Now you getting wild.

No, I swear to God. No, no, no, no. Yeah, that's, that's crazy. No, but hold on.

Listen to what I'm saying. That's really, really rare. Listen to what I'm saying.

And I think that they're crazy enough where they are.

Okay. Joe, listen to this. If you had children with the person,

let's not say ex.

Let me, let me, let me...

If your baby mother could come... If she, she, she could come spend the night if

she... Say, if she lived out of town, and it was okay with your lady,

you wouldn't

allow your baby mother to use-

Baby mother is family dynamics

... That's what I meant. That's what I meant. Yes, yes.

Different conversations gotta happen-

Totally. Got it

... then.

That's what I meant.

And we maybe shouldn't meet each other and do all that cute blended family shit.

Got it.

I'm talking about what they're talking about.

And what I'm saying is-

Right there

... this is, this is my point. What I'm saying is, if your wife,

girlfriend, boyfriend, husband has the intent to cheat,

whether you okay the dinner or not, they gonna cheat. Right.

Of c- so.

But I'm not leading you to cheat, nigga.

You don't have to lie, and you gotta put some effort into the

cheat.

I'm not, I'm not, I'm not giving him cheating on a platter.

I'm not about to just say, "Oh, yeah, yeah,

yeah." I'm not giving him cheating on a

plate. You gotta work for that cheat, boy.

Facts.

You gotta work for that.

Facts.

You gotta work for that. I'm not giving it to you.

"Oh, yeah, do that." What y'all think happens at

dinner? I don't... A lot.

A lot can happen at dinner.

Food seeds. But it can happen in the hotel lobby.

It can happen anywhere.

I'm just saying, like- For real. For sure ...

they already had a conference in another state.

I could sit next to you in the conference. We're in another state.

I could sit next to you in the conference. Yeah.

And we be taking notes, and if that's your intent,

your intent's gonna be the same.

Exactly. My nigga, insecurity is insecurity. Mine's bothering me.

That's why you was single. And it breeds itself in other places.

I don't... All right. Yeah. No, no, now let me tell you.

How long ago was the ex? That's another important factor,

I feel like.

That mat- that, uh, that, that matters. Uh.

That matters.

Maybe, um...

Before you.

Y'all going too hard on old, overcompensating for something.

Maybe, maybe, like, five years before, five, six years before, before

we got serious.

Oh, this nigga is on crack.

That's too soon?

He has a crack dealer, I'm telling you, that he supply

with.

Is that his supply?

That spots it to him on the strength.

What's, what's the line, like 20? I can't make assignment.

20 is an entirely different conversation.

I don't know if you're being facetious or not.

No, then what's the line for you? Is it 20? Is it 10?

Is it-

Don't... I didn't even get to my views on this.

Oh, let me ask a better question.

But listening, I-

Five was crazy to you

... you know me. You know me. No, no, no, no, no, no.

You know how me and Freeze play on this.

Like, I don't even need to-

The three of us in here together.

No, no, no. Let me, let me, let me-

And Parks. You in this.

Yeah.

Parks is down with us too.

No, no, no, no, no. Parks, I'm down with y'all.

We sat with you at the birthday party.

No, no, no, no, no. I'm down with y'all. No, I need my brother Parks, though.

I'm sorry. No, this is-

No dinner?

Parks was at the birthday party with the four... We saw Parks.

Ish I'm excusing from this.

'Cause he a different, he a different breed.

It doesn't matter that he's in a relationship now too.

Mark I'm surprised about.

No. No. Okay. Why, though?

Why am I excusing you from this? Don't fight with me.

I'm-

I'm excusing you from this because I assume-

Look at you

...

that you don't really have a leg to stand on to argue otherwise because you're

so fly with so many of your exes.

Oh, that's a good point. Oh, I see, I see, I see. Oh, that's a good point.

And he introduced her that night.

So because you feel like that about yourself-

Well, Mark might be too, actually. That's a good point. Actually.

That's, that's part of the point. I would- I didn't even think about that.

But that's a good point. That's... And, and I have... My wife trusts me to...

I work in an industry where many moons ago,

when I was single- Yeah ... I dated people. Mm-hmm.

So I go to conferences as an academic-

That's a good point

... where I've dated people. Mm-hmm.

I've worked in entertainment business, where I've dated people.

Hold, stop. Right, right there, though.

Yeah.

Hold on. You go to conferences-

Okay

... with people that you've dated.

Mm-hmm.

Cool.

Mm-hmm.

Do you then say, "Hey, me and person that's dated,

we're gonna go to dinner

together after said conference"?

Um, depends on the person, yeah. Now, there are people who my wife would say no

to,

and there are people who I would say no to for her. He just wasn't one of them.

Okay.

Okay. That's a good point.

That's all.

So you got your yeses and nos, then.

Yeah. That's fair. So we all got yes and no.

It's not, it's not just a blanket thing.

I know.

It's, it's generally a yes.

A yes.

Let, let, let me be clear. It's generally a yes.

How many times can that question even be proposed to me?

I mean- I mean, it goes- If you shut it down in fa-