Exploring Male Fantasies in Relationships

Why does your husband wanna watch you get railed by another man?

Yes, this is a real thing. My DMs are full of wives whose husbands finally

confessed their fantasy to them. They want a threesome,

but not with another woman.

They wanna sit in a chair and watch another man rail their

wife. Let me give you my take. If my husband ever told me that this

was his

fantasy, it would ruin my marriage.

I would never, ever look at him the same way ever again.

And the wives writing me, they are all telling me the same thing,

"I'm completely

turned off," or, "I did it for him, and now I can't unsee it or

erase it." And I don't blame them one bit because that is your man,

your leader, your protector, the one man that you trust

to guard you and your marriage and your emotions, and he is

telling you his dream is handing you to another man so he could

do

whatever the hell he wants with you? And for what?

His own entertainment. How emasculating is that?

When in history have kings or conquerors willingly handed their

wives to other men? I'll wait.

Oh yeah, that's right, never. Men competed to have access to women.

Men died for women. Men crave variety.

This is true, but they crave other women, not another man

banging their woman. Now, some couples genuinely enjoy this dynamic.

Cool, whatever. Your marriage, your business.

But to the men with this fantasy, I have questions.

Are you actually turned on, or is something deeper going on?

Are you chasing validation through another man's performance?

How disconnected from your own masculinity do you have to be?

Because here's the consequence that nobody warns you about.

You might say it's just a fantasy, but deep inside, she has

already stopped seeing you as a man