When Your Husband Is a Good Man but You’re Unhappy in Your Marriage

You know what's maddening? Being married to a man who isn't a bad person, but you're no longer sure you want to stay with. He works, pays his bills, is a good dad, and doesn't cause any major scandals. And you're having dinner with him,

watching him tell a story you've already heard forty- eight times, thinking: what a good person he is. And three seconds later: but do I really want to spend another twenty years in this relationship?

And then you feel guilty, because how do you explain that someone can be a good person and yet you don't feel happy in that relationship? And you start looking for a bigger reason, an affair, a lie, something terrible to justify what you feel.

But since when does a relationship need a villain for you to be able to question it?

I learned something after watching my parents staying in a relationship that was hurting them and repeating my own patterns.

You can love someone very much and need to ask yourself if you still want to share your life with him or with that person. And that question deserves to be heard, not punished. Tell me in the comments what would make you feel more guilty:

thinking about leaving or admitting that even though he's a good man, you no longer feel invested.