Why Does My Husband Taking Naps Make Me Angry

It makes me psychotically angry when my husband, Chris, takes naps or relaxes on the couch during the day.

I grew up with boomer parents. Um, I am a first-generation American on my dad's side.

My dad is from Cuba. Um, very, very, very hardworking parents. Nobody sat down on a couch unless it was nighttime, and no one took naps, you know. My mom certainly didn't take naps.

My dad would take, you know, some l- little afternoon siestas, but it felt like he was allowed to do that because he was such a hard worker.

I'm not saying that Chris isn't a hard worker. Sorry, Chris.

But I get crazy if I see him take a nap or relax on the couch during the day.

Um, and I'll deliberately, like, try to pick a fight with him about it.

You know, I'll stomp around and slam doors like a toddler.

And so if he's gonna take a nap, you know, he'll try to avoid me because he knows how mad I get. Uh, and I don't...

Myself, I don't like to take naps. Um, uh, if I even will sit for a second on the couch during the day, I instantly start to feel depressed or like my mom is gonna come back from the dead and yell at me because that's just not what you do.

Um, and, you know, Chris obviously didn't grow up like that, and he is well within his rights to take a nap when he wants to. Uh, he does, and he's taking a nap today, and I've been stewing like a freaking winter stew, angry about it and making loud noises on purpose because it makes me so mad. Why am I like this? Is this like a

child of boomer, child of immigrants attitude? Is it...

Am I just being a jerk? I mean, again, I don't take naps, so it's not like this kindness extends to me, you know, only and no one else. I don't take naps.

I have two teenagers. If my teenagers take naps, I'm like, "Of course, my baby, go take a nap," but your father better not ever take a nap.

I'm not gonna stop being mad at him about it because he's annoying, and I have to spend the rest of our lives together trolling him.

I'm just curious to know if other people are like this with their partners.

Does their ability to relax make you insane?