Self-Discipline, Boundaries and Financial Independence for Women

Look, girls, you're going to become machines, you're going to become machines.

They'll call you robots behind your backs.

"Oh, she doesn't think about anyone but herself," they'll say.

You'll get compliments, and you'll say, "Thank you."

You can't help someone else before putting on your own oxygen mask.

Without saving your own life, you can't save your mother's, your father's, your ancestors', your spouse's or your child's life.

Without making yourself happy and fulfilled, you can't make another person happy and fulfilled. You'll take care of yourself first.

You'll develop discipline. Your life will have structure.

Not this, "I'm just going with the flow, I'm in my soft girl era," "I'm doing some 70-step skincare routine."

With these things, with these things, it is impossible for you to attain something that will make you happy and fulfilled in a sustainable way.

You're not Danish, you're not Swedish, You're not Norwegian.

You're a Turkish woman living in Turkey.

What life will bring you when you go with the flow is not a sustainable and fulfilling standard of living.

You can't tie your prospects, your dreams, your future to someone else's conscience, whether they'll get confused someday or whether they'll love you for the rest of your life.

I'm not just talking about husbands or men here.

Whoever your mother, father, or sibling may be, you have to take the wheel of your own life.

You can't live life any other way. You have to make this work, okay?

There will be things you know well. Things you're good at doing, things you've studied and learned.

You'll read books. You'll stop fixating on yourself.

You'll throw away that scale, with your ass, your head, your weight, whatever.

You'll get fit, you'll work out. You'll have discipline.

You'll take good care of yourself. You'll do these things because you love yourself.

Okay? You'll set strict rules for yourselves.

What categories will your strict rules have?

They'll say, "You're very strict." "Thank you.

Yes, I am," you'll say. For people trying to enter your life, you'll have a list.

You'll have rules on that list. This list will be in writing.

When someone tries to enter your life, you'll check whether they comply or not. If they don't, you'll eliminate them.

They'll say, "But every relationship is different, every person is different.

Get to know me, maybe you'll change your rules." You'll say, "I don't have time to get to know you.

I trust my rules. Thank you very much." You'll send them away.

You'll have discipline. You'll learn to say no.

They'll tell you to come, you won't go. They'll tell you to drink, you won't drink.

They'll ask if you'll try it. You'll say no.

You'll learn how to earn money and hold on to it.

You'll learn to find resources and read to learn how to make money better.

You'll learn to take good care of yourself and what is good for you.

You'll learn that you can't afford to just go with the flow in life.

Friends, only dead fish let themselves be carried along by the current.

Living animals, living fish, are those who can swim against the current.

You will be among those who can swim against that current.

They'll call you machines, monsters, soulless.

When young men do the same thing, they call them ambitious young men chasing their dreams, who know what they want.

So you'll take what they say to you as a compliment, and you'll thank them.

And you'll never abandon your discipline, girls.

You will never allow your rules or boundaries to be violated by anyone.

Take good care of yourselves. I love you.