Hindi → English transcript

Our daughter finished her MBBS, did her MD, she is practicing,

properly, in a big hospital. We used to think that for her,

we would find a match in no time at all, She is so well qualified, so beautiful,

slim and trim, and smart.

Earlier, my daughter used to say,“ Mom,

I am a doctor, so my thoughts will only match with a doctor.”

So we started looking only at doctors.

Now when we look at doctors, then some…

somewhere we find some shortcoming, and somewhere…

by the time they are 32, 33 years old, they are already doctors,

Practicing and studying for so long. There is no doubt about that. So we also felt,

well, in this…

If we look only in this profession,

then it will not even be difficult for us to find someone.

That we are finding doctors, but at 33… at 32– 33, 34 years old,

they have started to look just like uncles. I mean, she is a…

Now these days the problem is, if you get it done at twenty- five or twenty- six,

that’s a problem.

Kids do not have that much thought and understanding.

After that, by the time they are twenty- nine or thirty,

their thinking develops a bit more,

then their preferences and choices and dev… and all change.

Now when they become thirty- two, thirty- three, when they become fully mature,

when they understand how the world works,

by then they start looking like uncle and aunty. Now our daughter…

along with her studies,

our daughter also focused on fitness, and we too… our genetics also play a role.

And everyone… boys of thirty- two, thirty- three, thirty- four years, some are bald,

some have lost hair, Some have become fat, some… I mean, hey, to look at…

now the daughter should look at least decent too.

Now the doctors we were finding for her… were like that, so we said, fine,

let’s look in other streams.

I mean, son, your thoughts could match with anyone, right? So we…

now we’ve also started looking in different professions.

The same problem keeps coming up.

We can’t find even one decent boy.

There was one who was a bit smart and good- looking,

but he didn’t have educational qualifications,

so the girl didn’t like him that way.

When we show the photo to relatives,

they start taunting us right away, “ Oh, your girl is so beautiful…

such a beautiful girl, such a smart girl,

and for her you’re looking at uncles and old- man type boys?” Now what can we do?

It’s not in our hands. All we can do is look and talk.

So I’ve explained to her,“ Daughter, make a little compromise somewhere.”

Looks can be adjusted with a little bit of compromise. Nature is what lasts forever.

Nature… in the end your…

your… The person you have to live with,

it’s their nature that will actually matter to you. Now, more or less like…

now appearance, height- weight,

features— these are just not in our hands at all.

If they were, we would all have improved ourselves,

everyone would have changed their features exactly how they wanted. I mean…

there is just no glow left on the kids’ faces. If boys of 34- 35,

35- 35 years are in this state, then… By the time they are 55… 50- 60, who knows,

they will start looking completely old. This is what the food is doing,

the air and water are having an effect, this is becoming very difficult.

I mean the kids want looks too,

the kids also want qualifications, they want everything. Now we are looking,

searching, and will have to keep searching, this is the only solution we have.

Till now we have not even shortlisted anyone.

And if we like someone a little and then tell the relatives,

then they start nitpicking. So that is how it is, we are trying on our side,

let's see when we finally get it.